Ok, maybe I am a second time mom and these are things that I learned during baby’s first year the second time around. Regardless, being a mom is hard. No matter what number baby this is for you, you will always learn a little bit more as you go so here are the 7 things I learned during baby’s first year.
I am way more laid back
When Hayden would fall I would for all nervous. What if hw was hurt? What if that small bump or bruise was actually a broken bone or internal bleeding that happened because I was (in my mind) being negligent?! My min would literally go to the worst possible case scenario. When Avery came along, my take on motherhood was a little more lack. Even in the newborn haze, I was less worried about doing things right and more worried about making it through the day with minimal spit up on my clean shirt and a happy baby. When Avery falls, of Cours I pick her up and comfort her but I have learned that the majority of the time, kids will bounce right back.
Having a good partner is key
It’s no secret that I am divorced and my amazing son is a product of that. However, when Hayden was little I had to not only navigate the perils of a newborn with minimal help from his father while being a first time mom. I also tended to walk through milestones, appointments, birthday parties and outings alone.
Avery’s dad is the complete opposite. Not only did he attend every single prenatal appointment but has been there every step of the way in her first year of life as an amazing dad and partner. He gets up in the middle of the night, changes diapers and is not afraid to get down on the floor and play peek a boo with a one year old.
Sleep deprivation is real and it sucks
The age gap between my children is six years. That means I had a whole lot of time to remember what sleep was like. Going backwards was a shock to my system I was not prepared for.
Breastfeeding was easier
I didn’t put so much stress on myself to make breastfeeding work the second time around. It seemed to happen more naturally with Avery because I learned to relax and just let things happen. Yes, there were tears and there were days that were hard but in the end learning to let go of the ideal that our breastfeeding journey was going to be perfect was the key to my success.
If you are wondering about what breastfeeding essentials you will need or how to boost your milk supply to pick up some tips to lessen the burden you out on yourself in regards to breastfeeding check out my other posts HERE and HERE.
Cute outfits are great but sleepers are better
Having a girl was like a dream come true for me. Yes, my son was also a dream come true but I was excited to finally be able to buy the cute dresses, rompers and bows that I had been eyeing every time I was shopping for kid related items. I quickly learned that while these outfits are cute, they are impractical for a baby that needs to be changed multiple times per day. I relied heavily on sleepers and onesies when Avery was small and realized the cute outfits came later.
Let the advice go
Everyone has some advice to give on what to do with your baby, how to feed your baby, or even what to name your baby. Smile and let that shit go because loads of people will give you advice and the majority of it will be unsolicited.
Enjoy every minute
Your baby’s first year truly does fly by in the blink of an eye. And then in another blink they are seven. My point is I was more mindful this time around to enjoy each and every milestone. I spent more time enjoying the time Avery and I were together then worrying if I was doing everything right.
This year really did pass by in a blur and I am looking forward to the years to come as both myself and my children grow and learn. Till next time, thanks for reading!