• Home
  • About Me
  • Contact
  • Legalities
  • Categories
    • Parenting
    • Lifestyle
    • Holiday Ideas
    • Healthy Living Tips
    • Beauty Tips for Women
    • Travel

My Slightly Chaotic Life

Balancing Life, Children and Chaos

Lifestyle

5 Types of Adult Friendships

June 10, 2018 Comments : 27

As you get older the type of friendships that you have and make change. Here are 5 Types of Adult Friendships that every woman must have.

I have been thinking a lot about friendships lately and how over the years the types of friends that I have or have made recently has evolved and changed. When you are young it is way easier to make friends through school or sports or common interests. As you get older friendships become more difficult to make and maintain with work schedules and children. This and a recent friendship ending has got me thinking about the types of friends you have as an adult. Here are the 5 types of adult friendships I have discovered over the years.

Mom Friends

I’ve said it before; I’m terrible at making mom friends. I will never be the head of the PTA nor will I be the mom that volunteers weekly at my children’s schools. i do participate though as my schedule allows and have made what I like to call “mom acquaintances.” When I see these other moms at school or sporting events we talk about our kids who are in the same grade together and discuss some aspects of our personal lives but never fully get to know each other. These mom acquaintances are invaluable though. They help us navigate our children’s schools, homework and activities. When I made the decision to switch Hayden’s school, take on a sport or volunteer to head a chair for the school’s auction these moms are there to cheer me on. I wish I had more mom friends though, especially right now while Avery is so little. It would nice to have those friends with kids the same age to meet and support one another has we navigate the first year of our children’s lives. If you are lucky enough to make these friends, hold on to them.

Work Friends

Some of the best people that I have met, I have met through work. Working as nurse can really limit friendships: long hours, weekends and holidays not to mention the utter physical and mental exhaustion on days off does not bode well for friendships. So naturally you gravitate towards those that share a similar schedule and similar personality including being completely inappropriate the majority of the time. Conversations with these friends are easy because you can be your dark, twisted self free of judgement. These friends also embrace and encourage my sarcastic side and push past my resting bitch face to see the real me. I have been lucky enough to have some pretty amazing work friends that have become friends that I can’t live without.

 

Social Media Friends

We live in a day where social media is a huge component of our daily interactions. Facebook, Instagram, blogs, Twitter (which I personally don’t have) all create a different circle of friendships and support. I love following former friends or classmates on these platforms and seeing how their lives have evolved and check out pictures of their beautiful families. It’s a nice way to stay in touch with these old friends that you grew apart from. I have also found a tribe of sorts through Instagram. Moms supporting moms creates a sense of community with essentially strangers. I have met inspirational individuals through this platform and while we are not “real life” friends we support, encourage and celebrate little victories on these social platforms with each other.

The friends you CAN live without

As you get older your tolerance for bullshit and negativity diminishes and you begin to realize there are so many people in your life who surround you with their drama. You begin to realize who you actually want in your life versus who you can do without and over the years I have cut ties with those who I have learned in the end really don’t give a shit about me.

Let me share a story with you about a recent friendship that ended. I won’t go into full details but this friend was someone I have known since before high school and even lived with in college. So over the last few years this friend and I have been slowly drifting away. I will admit I played a roll in the rift that developed between us but while I was continuing to reach out, she was talking about me to my ex-husband who I was in the middle of a nasty divorce with, and then lied to me about it. At a mutual friend’s going away party, despite my best efforts to be nice and reach out, she snubbed her nose at anything I said and did her best to avoid me. She hammered the final nail into our friendship coffin when she deleted me as her friend on Facebook just the other day which spurred this post. My point is that no matter how long this girl was my friend or how much over the years I did for her she didn’t care enough to try and mend fences, instead she resorted to immature means to end the friendship. Now this person is the example of the types of friends that I can live without.

The friends you CAN’T live without

These are the friendships that no matter the distance, time spent apart or disagreements hold up. The friends that will always show up after you have a baby to bring you a home cooked meal or to your kid’s birthday party. They also will be the ones you turn to when you fight with your spouse or just need someone to talk to. They are the friends that stand by you through thick and thin and the friends you never argue with. They are also the friends that will be brutally honest with you even though you may not want to hear it but you appreciate hearing it. These are the friends that you hold onto and value because friends like these don’t come around very often.

 

Share this...
Pin on Pinterest
Pinterest
Share on Facebook
Facebook
Tweet about this on Twitter
Twitter
Previous:
Saranghae; the Best Korean Skin Care Product
Next:
DockATot: Worth the hype?

Comments

  1. Brandy says

    June 11, 2018 at 2:32 pm

    Most of my friends are social media friends these days. I don’t get out enough lol. #momlife

    Reply
  2. Kayla says

    June 11, 2018 at 3:26 pm

    Loved this.

    Reply
  3. Namesste Momma says

    June 11, 2018 at 5:19 pm

    Yes! I appreciated the Mom Friends section. I too have Mom acquaintances that are invaluable. I’m also grateful to have friends from work, social media, & that I can’t live without. It’s such an important part of self care to have friends.

    Reply
  4. Sarah says

    June 12, 2018 at 4:24 am

    I have a VERY small tribe of friends and I like it that way. Less drama and bullshit.

    Reply
  5. Chantal says

    June 12, 2018 at 8:58 pm

    I love this. My mom friends/social media friends are the best.

    Reply
  6. Itisreal777 says

    June 18, 2018 at 1:07 pm

    “The friends you can’t live without”— These are the true friends that ought to be cherished

    Reply
  7. Cin says

    July 6, 2018 at 4:56 pm

    My faves are def social media friends and work friends Since I’ve spend so much time on both. The 3 girls I’ve know for over 10 years are my CANT live w/o. Love this article!

    Reply
  8. Michelle Milla says

    July 7, 2018 at 4:11 am

    I have a VERY small group of friends that I can’t live without. I love them because no matter how long it’s been, we can always pick up where we left off.

    Reply
  9. Aradhana says

    July 8, 2018 at 12:14 pm

    Best article on friendship I have ever read. I loved how you distinguish friends depending on how and where you meet.

    Reply
  10. Stacie says

    November 8, 2018 at 12:12 pm

    It’s important to recognize the friends you CAN and CANNOT live without. You have to make the right choices.

    Reply
  11. Liz Siemers says

    November 8, 2018 at 12:57 pm

    This is such a nice post. I’ve never had a ton of close friends, and reading this makes me realize I need more “mom” friends in this area. It can be weird when the only you have in common with someone is your kids, but it’s good to have those relationships and connections!

    Reply
  12. Chad says

    November 8, 2018 at 8:17 pm

    Thank you so much for the great post. I love how you categorized all possible friendships, it is so true.

    Reply
  13. Alexandra says

    November 8, 2018 at 9:31 pm

    Ah yes, this is SO true! You hit the nail on the head with this one. I think as we get older, we realise that we don’t have to tolerate some people – and that’s a healthy progression!

    Reply
  14. Yeah Lifestyle says

    November 9, 2018 at 8:39 am

    It is funny, I have never realised but I do have all these type of friendships myself. The friend you lived with in college sounds awful and I think you are well rid of her.

    Reply
  15. Shar says

    November 9, 2018 at 12:24 pm

    Love this post! I feel like i have a lot of social media friends but need to get some mom friends.

    Reply
  16. Catherine says

    November 9, 2018 at 4:35 pm

    I’ve made so many friends through social media! It’s incredible how technology connects people from around the world! The most important though is having a good, strong bond with your parents 🙂

    Reply
  17. Elaine says

    November 9, 2018 at 7:33 pm

    It’s interesting how friendships evolve over time. Some friends I made in high school and college were people I thought I could never live without. Then, due to distance and time, they are now people I can and do live without. Luckily, I still have a few people in my “can’t live without” circle, so all is well. 🙂

    Reply
  18. Dhemz says

    November 9, 2018 at 10:33 pm

    True, I agree with you that as we grow older and have children, finding friends is not easy as when we were young. Right now, I only have one friend that I know I can always count on.

    Great post. Thanks for sharing!

    Reply
  19. Tiffany La Forge-Grau says

    November 9, 2018 at 11:26 pm

    It seems that our friendship needs change as our life circumstances do. I don’t expect the same nor do I want the same type of friendship I had when I was younger now that I am married with children. My husband is my best friend now.

    Reply
  20. Surekha Busa says

    November 10, 2018 at 3:19 am

    I have a lot of different types of friends. I have a friends that I can’t live without and as of the moment I also have social media friends and I am happy for having them in my life.

    Reply
  21. Tonya Morris says

    November 10, 2018 at 11:09 am

    I have made so many friends on social media that will be my friends for life! I of course have my girls for life who I’ve made growing up as well!

    Reply
  22. Jasmine Hewitt says

    November 10, 2018 at 11:31 am

    its so important to not only value the friends you do have. you have to recognize the ones you dont need

    Reply
  23. NAti says

    November 10, 2018 at 5:34 pm

    This was such a pleasant read! I agree with all your types of friends, except maybe the work friends. I have never been so lucky to find good friends through work! At the moment I only have those “you can’t live without” and they can be counted on one hand, but it doesn’t matter the number, is the quality that matters to me!

    Reply
  24. Katie says

    November 10, 2018 at 10:44 pm

    Friends totally change with age and the stages you are in. Some people get you and others don’t. I try to appreciate everyone I’m around, but sometimes it’s easier to connect with someone because of similar interests or personality, like you said. Definitely true for me!

    Reply
  25. LISA JEAN-FRANCOIS says

    November 11, 2018 at 9:31 am

    You’re so right about the mom friends, and you described me to a T. I have a hard time making mom friends, but they have helped me to be in the know as it pertains to school activities and opportunities for my son.

    Reply
  26. stacey says

    November 11, 2018 at 2:35 pm

    Lol, friends, you can live without, aren’t really friends. That’s not to say the lessons you learn from them aren’t important.

    Reply
  27. Jackline A says

    November 11, 2018 at 4:50 pm

    This was a great post! So relatable! Since becoming a mother, I’ve been really discovering the joys of mom friends!

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Recipe Rating




About Me

Hello

Hi! I'm Danielle. I'm a mom, girlfriend and ED nurse. I love sharing my honest take on all things mom as well as life!

Let’s Connect

Featured Posts

Friday favs: 5 things that I am loving this week

Friday Favs: The 5 Things I am Loving Now

Tips to get through cold and flu season

Tips to Get Through Cold and Flu Season

Friday favorites

Friday Favorites: 5 Things I am Loving this Week

Categories

  • Beauty Tips for Women
  • Healthy Living Tips
  • Holiday Ideas
  • Home Decor
  • Lifestyle
  • Mom Life
  • Parenting
  • Pregnancy
  • Recipes
  • Travel
  • Uncategorized

Search

Archives

Taking a much needed break while the toddler naps Taking a much needed break while the toddler naps to just breathe. Chasing her around all day can be absolutely exhausting which means by the time I get to sit for a minute I am starving! 

@dunkin has me covered with a little afternoon pick me up with their delicious coffee and a new Snackin’ Menu. You can choose from stuffed croissants, stuffed bagel minis, a gluten-free brownie and Snackin’ Bacon available for a limited time at select locations! 
Pair these with your favorite coffee, my current fav is the Explorer Blend, for the perfect combination. So whether you are on the go or taking a mini afternoon break, make sure to grab something from the @dunkin Snackin’ Menu! 

Any guesses on how long my toddler break will last? I’ll give you a hint; not long! #toddlermomlife 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#dunkinmaine 
#dunkinpartner 
#dunkin
Happy thirty-something birthday to me!! Birthdays Happy thirty-something birthday to me!!

Birthdays used to be a big deal to me, now not so much. Getting older was scary but as the years have gone on, I look at another year older means another year of growth. 

Growing as a person, a mom, a friend, a wife, and growing in my own personal goals. My life is pretty damn good and I am loving every second of growing older with the amazing people around me. So cheers to another year around the sun! 

Also, getting a photo with balloons is about as hard as getting a photo with your children just in case anyone was wondering! ❤️
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#birthdaycelebrations 
#thirtysomething 
#thirtyflirtyandthriving 
#itsamomthing
Anyone else hate when their toddler uses their clo Anyone else hate when their toddler uses their clothing to blow their nose?! Fully prepared for cold and flu season over here with the help of @scottiestissues. (ad)

The extra strength and softness as well as the beautiful prints and patterns help this mama keep the sniffles at pay. Especially with this little one of mine who is constantly trying to wipe her nose on just about everything.
 
Looking to prepare you and your family for the cold and flu season? Check out my latest blog post (link in bio) on tips to do just that!

Double tap if your toddler does the same thing! I can’t have the only one 😆
 .
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#TripleSoftProtectionSquad
#healthykids
#motherhoodmoments 
#raisingtinyhumans 
#toddlerhood
Sunday’s are for being lazy, well as lazy as you Sunday’s are for being lazy, well as lazy as you can be when your solo parenting two kids all day and night. 

Sharing this space of my home because soon this dining room table will be replaced by what I think is the perfect new addition. But I want to remember the imperfections and memories this old one holds. Anyone else feel a sense of nostalgia about their home furniture or is it just me?

And to note the vase and fake stems are from @walmart and cost less then $10 for it all! 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#homedecorinspo 
#diningroomideas 
#simplehomestyle 
#cornerofmyhouse 
#walmartfinds
#squaresofmeandmine
Our @icecastles_ adventure was a success! The kids Our @icecastles_ adventure was a success! The kids loved all the fun ice slides, hidden pathways and thousands upon thousands of icicles frozen together to create this winter escape.
Looking to visit one near you? Here are my tips to make your visit fun and exciting.

1. Dress for the weather. Snow pants, hats, boots and warm clothing are a must. We spent over an hour there and the children only complained once they were cold.

2. Mask up. Masks are required. We took ours off briefly for the photo, making sure there was plenty of distance between us and others.

3. Book ahead. You can book your reservation online and it is highly suggested. Times sell out quickly during vacation weeks and on weekends. The day we went was sold out. 

4. Bringing a really small child? Make sure to bring a sled to pull them on or put them in a carrier. Strollers will not move through the snow and ice. 

5. Visit at night if you can. We didn’t this year but in years past we have gone at night  when the Ice Castles are lit up with lights making it that more magical. 

Lastly, have fun and stop by the little fire pits set up throughout to warm up.

Have you been to the @icecastles_ this year? What did you think?!
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#newenglandliving 
#icecastles 
#lifewithatoddler 
#adventureswithkids 
#newengland_igers
#mylittlestolove
Living this mantra more and more. Picking and choo Living this mantra more and more. Picking and choosing what to spend my energy on in order to stay sane these days. 
Focusing on the good versus the bad and the things that I can control. Applying this daily to my relationships, parenting and work life. 
Choosing the right things to spend my energy on in my day to day life has made all the difference in my own personal happiness. 

So how are you choosing to spend your energy in your own life? 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.

#motivationalwords 
#motherhoodgoals 
#dailyliving 
#quotestoinspire 
#inspirationalpost
Happy love day from my cutest little Valentine’s Happy love day from my cutest little Valentine’s. 
I love how much they love each other and want to spend time together despite their age gap (almost 7 years). 
And they remind me often to celebrate our love for each other every day! ❤️

Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? What are your plans? Swipe to see some extra cuteness from my littles! 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.

#lifewithkids 
#raisinglittles 
#raisethemkind 
#motherhoodmoments 
#mynameismama
I love all the benefits that raw juice provides bu I love all the benefits that raw juice provides but not the mess of making it myself! (ad) @raw_generation_juices  is helping me hit the reset button this year with their raw juice cleanses. You don’t have to be doing a juice cleanse to benefit from cold pressed juices. These juices can help you jumpstart a healthier diet, increase your fruit and veggies intake, and improve your digestion. ⁣
⁣
My favorites; sweet roots and vanilla cashew! ⁣
Delivered right to your door with no mess , use the code DANIELLE15 to get 15% off and grab the link in my bio to shop. ⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
#rawgenerationjuices 
#healthymommy ⁣
#busymoms ⁣
#momlifestyle
Follow Me on Instagram

Tags

Baby baby items birth Breastfeeding cesarean section Children Christmas Family travel Fitness Fourth trimester Gift Ideas Goals Happiness Healthy Healthy Kids Healthy lifestyle Healthy Living Holiday Home Home decor Kids Life changes Lifestyle Lose weight Maine Maine Living Mom mom essentials mom life motherhood Motherhood unplugged moving forward new baby New England living New England travel new mom New Year Parenting pregnancy preparing for baby Relationships second child Travel Weight Loss Working mom
Taking a much needed break while the toddler naps Taking a much needed break while the toddler naps to just breathe. Chasing her around all day can be absolutely exhausting which means by the time I get to sit for a minute I am starving! 

@dunkin has me covered with a little afternoon pick me up with their delicious coffee and a new Snackin’ Menu. You can choose from stuffed croissants, stuffed bagel minis, a gluten-free brownie and Snackin’ Bacon available for a limited time at select locations! 
Pair these with your favorite coffee, my current fav is the Explorer Blend, for the perfect combination. So whether you are on the go or taking a mini afternoon break, make sure to grab something from the @dunkin Snackin’ Menu! 

Any guesses on how long my toddler break will last? I’ll give you a hint; not long! #toddlermomlife 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#dunkinmaine 
#dunkinpartner 
#dunkin
Happy thirty-something birthday to me!! Birthdays Happy thirty-something birthday to me!!

Birthdays used to be a big deal to me, now not so much. Getting older was scary but as the years have gone on, I look at another year older means another year of growth. 

Growing as a person, a mom, a friend, a wife, and growing in my own personal goals. My life is pretty damn good and I am loving every second of growing older with the amazing people around me. So cheers to another year around the sun! 

Also, getting a photo with balloons is about as hard as getting a photo with your children just in case anyone was wondering! ❤️
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#birthdaycelebrations 
#thirtysomething 
#thirtyflirtyandthriving 
#itsamomthing
Anyone else hate when their toddler uses their clo Anyone else hate when their toddler uses their clothing to blow their nose?! Fully prepared for cold and flu season over here with the help of @scottiestissues. (ad)

The extra strength and softness as well as the beautiful prints and patterns help this mama keep the sniffles at pay. Especially with this little one of mine who is constantly trying to wipe her nose on just about everything.
 
Looking to prepare you and your family for the cold and flu season? Check out my latest blog post (link in bio) on tips to do just that!

Double tap if your toddler does the same thing! I can’t have the only one 😆
 .
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#TripleSoftProtectionSquad
#healthykids
#motherhoodmoments 
#raisingtinyhumans 
#toddlerhood
Sunday’s are for being lazy, well as lazy as you Sunday’s are for being lazy, well as lazy as you can be when your solo parenting two kids all day and night. 

Sharing this space of my home because soon this dining room table will be replaced by what I think is the perfect new addition. But I want to remember the imperfections and memories this old one holds. Anyone else feel a sense of nostalgia about their home furniture or is it just me?

And to note the vase and fake stems are from @walmart and cost less then $10 for it all! 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#homedecorinspo 
#diningroomideas 
#simplehomestyle 
#cornerofmyhouse 
#walmartfinds
#squaresofmeandmine
Our @icecastles_ adventure was a success! The kids Our @icecastles_ adventure was a success! The kids loved all the fun ice slides, hidden pathways and thousands upon thousands of icicles frozen together to create this winter escape.
Looking to visit one near you? Here are my tips to make your visit fun and exciting.

1. Dress for the weather. Snow pants, hats, boots and warm clothing are a must. We spent over an hour there and the children only complained once they were cold.

2. Mask up. Masks are required. We took ours off briefly for the photo, making sure there was plenty of distance between us and others.

3. Book ahead. You can book your reservation online and it is highly suggested. Times sell out quickly during vacation weeks and on weekends. The day we went was sold out. 

4. Bringing a really small child? Make sure to bring a sled to pull them on or put them in a carrier. Strollers will not move through the snow and ice. 

5. Visit at night if you can. We didn’t this year but in years past we have gone at night  when the Ice Castles are lit up with lights making it that more magical. 

Lastly, have fun and stop by the little fire pits set up throughout to warm up.

Have you been to the @icecastles_ this year? What did you think?!
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#newenglandliving 
#icecastles 
#lifewithatoddler 
#adventureswithkids 
#newengland_igers
#mylittlestolove
Living this mantra more and more. Picking and choo Living this mantra more and more. Picking and choosing what to spend my energy on in order to stay sane these days. 
Focusing on the good versus the bad and the things that I can control. Applying this daily to my relationships, parenting and work life. 
Choosing the right things to spend my energy on in my day to day life has made all the difference in my own personal happiness. 

So how are you choosing to spend your energy in your own life? 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.

#motivationalwords 
#motherhoodgoals 
#dailyliving 
#quotestoinspire 
#inspirationalpost
Happy love day from my cutest little Valentine’s Happy love day from my cutest little Valentine’s. 
I love how much they love each other and want to spend time together despite their age gap (almost 7 years). 
And they remind me often to celebrate our love for each other every day! ❤️

Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? What are your plans? Swipe to see some extra cuteness from my littles! 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.

#lifewithkids 
#raisinglittles 
#raisethemkind 
#motherhoodmoments 
#mynameismama
I love all the benefits that raw juice provides bu I love all the benefits that raw juice provides but not the mess of making it myself! (ad) @raw_generation_juices  is helping me hit the reset button this year with their raw juice cleanses. You don’t have to be doing a juice cleanse to benefit from cold pressed juices. These juices can help you jumpstart a healthier diet, increase your fruit and veggies intake, and improve your digestion. ⁣
⁣
My favorites; sweet roots and vanilla cashew! ⁣
Delivered right to your door with no mess , use the code DANIELLE15 to get 15% off and grab the link in my bio to shop. ⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
⁣
#rawgenerationjuices 
#healthymommy ⁣
#busymoms ⁣
#momlifestyle
Follow Me on Instagram
2021  Design by SkyandStars.co
Back Top