Being a mom is hard. Well being a parent (dad’s included) is hard. There are so many constants to juggle including work (for the working parents), daily routines, kid activities, meal planning and preparation, not to mention the never ending pile of laundry. The list could go on. Most days, at least for me, I feel like I am a big giant failure at being a mom.
I can recall one day that I had both my kids and my two nephews in the car. I had placed a to go order for our local grocery store, Hannaford since the thought of dragging all the kids into the store was daunting. the young man, who couldn’t be more then 20, was getting payment and loading the groceries in my trunk while the kids were screaming, laughing, throwing things and I either looked like I was going to cry or tear my hair out. This super nice young employee handed me my receipt for the groceries and said with a smile “you’re killing it at this mom thing.” And you know what, he was right and you are too.
9 Signs you’re Killing it at Being a Mom
Your kids are happy
I’m not talking about them being happy every single minute of every single day. Let’s be real, that’s not possible. There will be tears, disagreements and straight up tantrums will happen. If more times then not your kids are happy, then that in my book, is a mom win.
They are polite
Polite children say a lot about parenting. I love hearing please and thank you coming from my children and when they forget to say it I always try and remind them.
Kindness is cool
Another way to tell that being a mom is your thing is your kids are kind. Kindness is an amazing trait for kids to have and parents should fully encourage and support kindness towards others. If your kids are kin
They come to you
They come to you when they are mad, sad, hurt or even just to talk to. This means they trust you and want to share with you what is happening in their lives.
They have ambition
Yes their ambition may be seeing who can go the fastest on their hover board or who can fit the most marshmallows in their mouth at once. The point is, ambition and drive are a good thing for children to have. It will carry over into their adult years and their goals will change as time goes on.
You can say no
Yes, they are super cute when they beg and plead for things but being able to say no to your children is a good thing to be able to do. Kids need their parents to be able to say no and stick to it and don’t feel guilty or bad for doing so.
They look up to you
Many times I feel guilty for being a working mom. However, my son is proud of what I do and many times I can hear him telling his friends that his mom is a nurse and helps sick people. He looks up to me and admires that I am hardworking and a good mom to him.
You praise them
You get genuinely excited for them when they do or create something all by themselves. Avery unintentionally peed on her potty last week and you would have thought she just got into Harvard with the amount of praise I rained down on her. So praise your kids if they do something cool. They will love it and you will feel pretty good too.
You’re helping them create memories
Toys and things are cool in the moment but memories can last a lifetime. I love getting out and doing things that my children will remember as they grow older.
So next time you feel like a failure at being a mom remember this: there are so many ways to know that your killing it at this mom thing. If your kids are happy, clothed, fed and overall good people your doing an amazing job. Everything else is extra.
Hannah says
Most days I feel like I’m totally failing and ask myself if I could be doing more to be a better mom. It’s so easy to be hard on yourself, especially on the rough days. Thanks for sharing!
I love this post because it really helps us to focus on the good that we see in our kids and not the little things that don’t really matter so much!
Krystn M. says
Some times us moms are so hard on ourselves. This was a nice reminder that we are doing a great job!
I love this so much! I’m sure a lot of us are struggling right now with wondering if we are doing things right as a parent. These are great reminders that we are doing just fine!
-Jennifer
This is such a sweet post. These are awesome signs that parents are raising amazing kids.