• Home
  • About Me
  • Contact
  • Legalities
  • Categories
    • Parenting
    • Lifestyle
    • Holiday Ideas
    • Wellness
    • Beauty
    • Travel

My Slightly Chaotic Life

Balancing Life, Children and Chaos

Lifestyle

Dear 16 year old me….

September 25, 2018 Comments : 21

Ever wondered what advice you would give your teenage self? Find out what I want to tell my former self. | Teen | Growing up | Life changes |
Ever thought about what advice you would give yourself during high school? Check out what I would tell my former self and why it is important to always be yourself. | Teenager | Life changes | Getting older |

Dear 16 year old me,

You are now 17 years older and wiser. You have been through the many ups and downs that come with life and have come out on the other side stronger and at times a little more jaded.

I can’t go back in time and change your path but I can tell you you’ve learned and grown from the mistakes as well as the victories.

Despite this there are a few things I want you to know about life, love and friendships.

Be your own, independent self

Too many times it is easy to follow the crowd and lose your own individual identity. You wear what’s trendy even if you don’t like the style, join the popular crowd even if you don’t like the people, and and mute your ideals because someone may not agree with you. You should dress and act how you want to. You are your own person and nobody, not even the popular crowd, can take that away from you.

Don’t be a mean girl

There will be so many girls who will try to bring you down. Girls who will make fun of you for the way you look, the way you dress, even your weight. Don’t be one of those girls. Be better then them. Be the girl that is remembered as being kind, the one that people like because you made them feel good. Those mean girls in high school will most likely stay mean girls into college and then become the mean girls on the PTA. My point is, be kind to everyone. You’ll feel better about yourself in the end.

You are not fat

You are not overweight. You may look in the mirror and not feel comfortable in your own skin but I am here to tell you that your body issues are unfounded. Your body will go through many changes as you get older including weight gain, weight loss and creating two tiny, beautiful lives. Embrace your ability to wear whatever the fuck you want to now while your still a size 4 and your metabolism is sky high.

That boy you thought was the one, was not and will never be the one

In fact, you will meet a man who will be everything you wanted and more later on in life. Stop focusing on trying to get this guy in high school who will most likely end up meaning nothing to you later on. Also with that said, if a guy wants to be with you he will be with you. He won’t wait to call for days on end, blow you off or make comments about how he’s just not ready for a relationship right now. If he does any of these things: run. Don’t settle for anything less then you deserve. This is one thing you will learn the hard way.

Chase your dreams

If you want to become a lawyer or try to go to the Olympics for high jump: chase after it. It’s okay to have big goals in life. These dreams may come crashing down but you will always regret not trying. In my opinion regret is worse then failure.

It’s okay not to have your entire life planned out

I spent many sleepless, panic filled nights wondering what I was going to do with my life. Which college to go to, which career path to take, questioning if I was making the right choice. I’m here to tell you that none of that mattered. You will eventually find your way and it may be doing something you never thought you would do like becoming a nurse.

No one in the real world gives a shit if you were the most popular in your class

They give a shit about your character, your work ethic and your personality. Sure it feels good to be liked and have people know your name long after you graduated but in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t really matter 10 years down the road.

You’ve hit a few bumps along the road but you’ve managed to find a job you love, become a mom and find the man of your dreams. Is your life what you pictured it to be at 16? No, but in some ways it’s better. So hang in there. You’ll get to all the good and the bad that growing up has to offer.

Share this...
Pin on Pinterest
Pinterest
Share on Facebook
Facebook
Tweet about this on Twitter
Twitter
Previous:
The Ultimate Fall Bucket List
Next:
How to survive baby’s first teeth

Comments

  1. sarah garden says

    September 25, 2018 at 3:38 pm

    Yes yes yes! That part about high school boys 🙂 Awesome! Know your worth!

    Reply
  2. Monidipa Dutta says

    September 25, 2018 at 3:43 pm

    I am 25. If I could go back to 16 I would just say to myself, “Vent out your pain, don’t repress it. Close people die and it is a part of life”.

    Reply
  3. Tammy Staley says

    September 25, 2018 at 3:59 pm

    You will have many more of these dear you letter throughout your life. As long as you keep learning about yourself you will be fine!

    Reply
  4. Carmen Edwards says

    September 25, 2018 at 5:28 pm

    Such great tips to a younger you. I wish we had these tips when we needed them most. By the way you gave away your age lol.

    Reply
  5. GiGi Eats says

    September 25, 2018 at 7:46 pm

    Oh man, a letter to 16-year-old me would say – DO NOT GIVE A CRAP WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK because THEY DO NOT MATTER AT ALL!

    Reply
  6. Sarah says

    September 26, 2018 at 4:03 am

    Such a great post. Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and give myself a talking to.

    Reply
  7. Maartje says

    September 26, 2018 at 6:49 am

    This is lovely. I should probably write one of these myself. My life is not at all like the way I thought it was when I was younger…

    Reply
  8. Laura says

    September 26, 2018 at 9:37 am

    This resonates so much. Every 16 year old girl should read this. I believe in a time of social media influences that that have it even Harder than we did

    Reply
  9. Megan says

    September 26, 2018 at 9:50 am

    This is amazing, thank you so much for sharing. I’d like to say a lot of this to my 16 year old self too.

    Reply
  10. Rachel Bli says

    September 26, 2018 at 3:29 pm

    I remember being 16 and how insecure I felt as a teenager. But I also remember that confidence and self esteem grows and you care less about what people think as you get older.

    Reply
  11. The Tale of Mummyhood says

    September 26, 2018 at 3:49 pm

    It’s definitely so important to be yourself, it’s taken me a long time to believe it but it’s so important!

    Reply
  12. Britney says

    September 26, 2018 at 4:41 pm

    I love this! I would have so much to say to my 16 year old self.

    Reply
  13. Evelyn Hernandez says

    September 26, 2018 at 8:12 pm

    Wish I could talk to my 16 year old self, I would surely tell her to chase her dreams as well.

    Reply
  14. Lindsay says

    September 26, 2018 at 10:02 pm

    I just love reading these! Don’t you wish we really could go back in time and speak to our younger selves. All that time wasted worrying about “popularity” and feeling fat. Beautiful post!

    Reply
  15. Emily Fata says

    September 26, 2018 at 10:59 pm

    What a beautiful reflection. It inspired me to look back on how much I’ve changed since 16 (I’m 24 years old now), and think about what I would have told her. One thing for sure, would be to follow my gut!

    Reply
  16. HilLesha says

    September 26, 2018 at 11:30 pm

    I can relate to this! I was such an insecure teenager. There’s a lot I could tell my 16-year-old-self if I could turn back the hands of time!

    Reply
  17. Catherine Santiago Jose says

    September 27, 2018 at 1:53 am

    Wow, this is such a nice article to read and if I am going to say something about my 16-year-old self I would rather say be happy and contented in what you have and love without asking any conditions.

    Reply
  18. Geraline Batarra says

    September 27, 2018 at 3:25 am

    This is such a nice post to read and I am glad that at the young age you are able to understand everything in your life. Thanks for sharing this with us!

    Reply
  19. Preet says

    September 27, 2018 at 4:06 am

    This is a great post to think of a younger me. I would to write as for myself .

    Reply
  20. Trina Dinnar says

    September 27, 2018 at 7:03 pm

    What an interesting and insightful post! I really enjoyed your perspective and look forward to reading more from you in the future!

    Reply
  21. Jen says

    September 29, 2018 at 4:39 am

    Yes! I especially love the bit about no-one caring about whether you were most popular. The real world doesn’t care!

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Recipe Rating




About Me

Hello

Hi! I'm Danielle. I'm a mom, wife and ED nurse. I love sharing my honest take on being a mom, traveling with kids and lifestyle content.

Let’s Connect

Featured Posts

postpartum wellness tips

Postpartum Wellness Tips

Easy. Elf on the Shelf Ideas

Easy Elf on the Shelf Ideas

Diaper Bag Essentials

Diaper Bag Essentials

Categories

  • Beauty
  • Holiday Ideas
  • Home Decor
  • Lifestyle
  • Mom Life
  • New England Living
  • Parenting
  • Pregnancy
  • Recipes
  • Style
  • Travel
  • Uncategorized
  • Wellness

Search

Archives

My nights after the kids go to bed is so productiv My nights after the kids go to bed is so productive. 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#momtruth #motherhoodunplugged #honestmom #funnymom #momhumor #funnyreel #relateable
I’m not sure if they are going to invite me back I’m not sure if they are going to invite me back….
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#mommyandme #mommemes #honestmom #momsbelike #darkhumor #workingmomlife
Any other Winter Warriors out there? #ad You know, Any other Winter Warriors out there? #ad You know, the ones who drink iced coffee even in the coldest of weather? @dunkin is here to support all those Winter Warriors out there with their selection of iced coffee! If you’re out in the snow and drinking an iced coffee this winter, make sure to tag #dunkinwinterwarrior on your post!
#dunkinmaine #dunkinpartner
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#maineliving #mainetheway #icedcoffee #icedcoffeeaddict #momstyle #momlifestyle
Supporting my postpartum body with @beli.baby Pren Supporting my postpartum body with @beli.baby Prenatal vitamins. 
Not only are the essential prior to conception and during pregnancy; they are essential to keep the body healthy after pregnancy as well. 
I have openly shared my previous miscarriages before finally getting pregnant with Chloe. This is why I decided to check out the Beli Women Prenatal vitamins to help with my own personal fertility and boost my chances of a having a successful pregnancy. The Beli Women Prenatal vitamins are formulated with powerful ingredients that can boost fertility and conception as well as  improve egg quality. As an older mom, this was especially important to me. During pregnancy, the Beli Women Prenatal can protect baby’s brain and spine, help reduce nausea, and then support postpartum recovery and breastfeeding.
And as a busy mom having the ability to order and have them delivered to your door monthly makes it that much easier for me to remember to take them. 
What are you doing to support your postpartum wellness? #belibaby #postpartumbody 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#postpartumwellness #postpartumjourney #pregnancylife #mombod #momof3 #pregnancyjourney
A little day off morning routine that for once was A little day off morning routine that for once was not pure craziness. 
Things that help me get out the door in the morning on time is getting up before the kids, having clothes picked out the night before and making sure their bags are packed for daycare and school. 
Mornings before work are a completely different ballgame. 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#morningroutine #morningvlog #dayinthelife #dailyvlog #momof3 #motherhoodunfiltered #dailylife
Not exactly sure how I am going to survive the tee Not exactly sure how I am going to survive the teen years with this one. 🤦🏻‍♀️ 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#raisingdaughters #momreels #motherhood #momhumor #mommyandme
I wonder what it must be like to go through life w I wonder what it must be like to go through life without a care in the world 😂 I guess this is where we balance each other out; me being the ball of anxiety and him being calm. Anyone else’s marriage or relationship like this? 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#marriagehumor #marriedlife #funnyreel #anxietyproblems #marriagegoals #husbandandwife
I can’t even move the wrong way without feeling I can’t even move the wrong way without feeling it the next day. Not sure how I have come to this point in my life. 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#parentingmemes #funnyreels #momhumor #newreel #tiredmom #relateable #adultlife
Follow Me on Instagram

Tags

Baby Baby essentials baby items Back to school birth cesarean section Children Christmas Christmas gifts Family travel Fourth trimester Gift Ideas Goals Healthy Healthy Kids Healthy Living Holiday Home Home decor Kids Life changes Lifestyle Maine Maine Living Mom mom life Mom style motherhood Motherhood unplugged Mother’s Day moving forward new baby New England living New England travel new mom New Year Parenting pregnancy preparing for baby Relationships second child Travel travel with kids Weight Loss Working mom
My nights after the kids go to bed is so productiv My nights after the kids go to bed is so productive. 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#momtruth #motherhoodunplugged #honestmom #funnymom #momhumor #funnyreel #relateable
I’m not sure if they are going to invite me back I’m not sure if they are going to invite me back….
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#mommyandme #mommemes #honestmom #momsbelike #darkhumor #workingmomlife
Any other Winter Warriors out there? #ad You know, Any other Winter Warriors out there? #ad You know, the ones who drink iced coffee even in the coldest of weather? @dunkin is here to support all those Winter Warriors out there with their selection of iced coffee! If you’re out in the snow and drinking an iced coffee this winter, make sure to tag #dunkinwinterwarrior on your post!
#dunkinmaine #dunkinpartner
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#maineliving #mainetheway #icedcoffee #icedcoffeeaddict #momstyle #momlifestyle
Supporting my postpartum body with @beli.baby Pren Supporting my postpartum body with @beli.baby Prenatal vitamins. 
Not only are the essential prior to conception and during pregnancy; they are essential to keep the body healthy after pregnancy as well. 
I have openly shared my previous miscarriages before finally getting pregnant with Chloe. This is why I decided to check out the Beli Women Prenatal vitamins to help with my own personal fertility and boost my chances of a having a successful pregnancy. The Beli Women Prenatal vitamins are formulated with powerful ingredients that can boost fertility and conception as well as  improve egg quality. As an older mom, this was especially important to me. During pregnancy, the Beli Women Prenatal can protect baby’s brain and spine, help reduce nausea, and then support postpartum recovery and breastfeeding.
And as a busy mom having the ability to order and have them delivered to your door monthly makes it that much easier for me to remember to take them. 
What are you doing to support your postpartum wellness? #belibaby #postpartumbody 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#postpartumwellness #postpartumjourney #pregnancylife #mombod #momof3 #pregnancyjourney
A little day off morning routine that for once was A little day off morning routine that for once was not pure craziness. 
Things that help me get out the door in the morning on time is getting up before the kids, having clothes picked out the night before and making sure their bags are packed for daycare and school. 
Mornings before work are a completely different ballgame. 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#morningroutine #morningvlog #dayinthelife #dailyvlog #momof3 #motherhoodunfiltered #dailylife
Not exactly sure how I am going to survive the tee Not exactly sure how I am going to survive the teen years with this one. 🤦🏻‍♀️ 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#raisingdaughters #momreels #motherhood #momhumor #mommyandme
I wonder what it must be like to go through life w I wonder what it must be like to go through life without a care in the world 😂 I guess this is where we balance each other out; me being the ball of anxiety and him being calm. Anyone else’s marriage or relationship like this? 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#marriagehumor #marriedlife #funnyreel #anxietyproblems #marriagegoals #husbandandwife
I can’t even move the wrong way without feeling I can’t even move the wrong way without feeling it the next day. Not sure how I have come to this point in my life. 
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
#parentingmemes #funnyreels #momhumor #newreel #tiredmom #relateable #adultlife
Follow Me on Instagram
2023  Design by SkyandStars.co
Back Top