It’s my birthday today and since this is my platform, I can do whatever the fuck I want. Which means I am going to share with you the things that I have learned over the years now being a 30-something year old adult woman. Honestly, I was a completely different person in my twenties and not in a good way. I had no idea what direction my life was going to take and because of that I fell into an unhealthy relationship which led to a cycle of problems for many years afterwards. As I am getting older, there are so many life lessons that I am learning about myself and life in general.
So in honor of my birthday I am sharing what I have learned throughout the years and maybe will help you in some way.
Life Lessons from a 30-Something Year Old
One thing I learned over the years is that it is easier to be yourself than to be someone else to fit into whatever mold you think you should fit into.
One thing that I wish I had done more in my earlier years was to travel more. Especially when I didn’t have kids. While I still enjoy traveling with my children now and seeing the world through their eyes, there are places I would have loved to visit on my own or with friends. You can still travel solo but the mom guilt is real.
Follow your dreams
Yes, I know this is cliché but it’s the truth. Stop doing what everyone expects you to do and go after what you really want in life. Before it is too late.
Your job is not your life
Where you aren’t replaceable is at home. So stop giving it all to a job that doesn’t caret about you (which is 99% of jobs out there) and will replace you with someone else the minute you give your notice.
Friends will come and go
This is a lesson that I have learned recently. If someone was truly your friend and wanted to be in your life they would take you at both your good and your bad. The ones that stay, those are your people. Those ones that don’t, well it’s their loss.
Which brings me to on of my next life lessons;
Stop letting people treat you like shit
If you are constantly being hurt by someone and you continually forgive them, that is a problem. Stop letting other people treat you like shit. Stand up for yourself and when you do, it is interesting how quickly the ones who want to continually make you feel bad make an exit from your life. That says more about them than you.
Live your life now
We have no idea how long we have on this earth so take the time to live your life now while you still can.
Spend more time with your kids
We get so distracted by everyday life that it is easy to fall into a routine and not truly focus on what is right in front of you; your kids. So spend more time with them because they truly do grow up so fast.
Stop caring about what other people think
The older I get, the less I care about what people think of me. In fact, I am sad that I spent so much time worrying about what other people thought about me throughout the years. Not one of those people that I worried about has ever done anything for me in my life. If you take away anything from this post then take this; your life really begins when you stop giving a shit about what other people think about you.
Til next time!