We all have them. I know that I live in a perpetual state of mom fail. Some are humorous while others bother me long after the tears have stopped falling. I recently came across a blog ALEARNINGSTORY.COM where she shared a post on one of her mom fails. It made me realize that all too often we tend to portray our lives in social media as perfect. However, life in my chaotic household is far from perfect and I experience mom fail on a daily basis.
So with that said, I am trying to bring you a weekly Mom Fail Monday post to show moms (and dads) everywhere that fails happen and it’s about time we start expecting them and finding the humor in them.
Mom Fail Monday: The Black Eye
My child got her first black eye this past week. Technically I was at work and she was home with Aaron when this happened but we will still call this a mom fail. She was toddling along and fell hitting her face on the coffee table. Was she direly injured? No. In fact, she barely cried and continued on playing. A few minutes later Aaron looked at her face and realized the damage that had been done; Avery had what would soon become a black eye on her right eye.
You may be asking yourself why I would think of this as a mom fail? Kids have accidents all the time, especially when they start walking. Yes, I understand this, I am an emergency room nurse after all and see kids with bumps and bruises from various sources. However, this was Avery’s real first injury and not only was I not there when it happened but I start thinking about all the things that I could have been done to prevent it.
Did she trip on the carpet? Is there a way that I could have padded the coffee table so when she inevitably did fall, there would have been a cushion? Maybe it was her shoes or lack there of? Maybe I can just wrap her in bubble wrap and call it good?
It took me a day or two to stop feeling bad and put down the baby proofing paraphernalia to be thankful for two things.
- She wasn’t seriously injured (just sporting a black eye for a little bit)
- She’s a tough little lady (because I would have cried more)
All of these made me realize (again) that accidents and kids go hand in hand. So I embraced my 14 month old’s black eye and figured this mom fail was more less a fail but the result of a clumsy toddler.
The first injury can be tough on a mom. When my first child got her first black eye, I was a wreck. Then I realized it’s just a part of growing and exploring just like you did.
Luna S says
Bumps happen! Seems like they usually happen around photo times too, my son fell once and hit is head on the coffee table giving him a little goose egg and a bruise. Happened right before a weekend event with the family!
Cristina Petrini says
I think the baby’s first little pain, the first little accident is the one that tempers a mother in her role!
omg she broke my heart!!! Injuries do happen for kids and that is perfectly ok, it is great how you handle it.
Mothers are protective that is why feel bad at even a tiny occurrence. Your baby is so playful and so pretty.
Felecia Monique says
OMG! Poor baby girl!! I remember when my baby girl fell off of the bed at 4 months…lets just say I was more traumatized than her.
It’s such a good thing kids are so resilient! We all just have to do the best we can and protect our kids. They are going to get bumps and bruises and we cant beat ourselves up over it!
I think accidents happen and people get tired. it is only normal. Black eye is a part of childhood, everybody gets that
Catherine Santiago Jose says
I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your daughter.
My daughter got her first injury when she was 10mos old and I am totally crying that time. I am just praying and hoping that nothing bad can happen to her.
Yeah Lifestyle says
Those first injuries sure can make us think, can’t they? I think we all panic a little and wonder what we could have done differently but the truth is sometimes there is nothing we can do to avoid these things happening as children are often clumsy, it’s just part of growing!
Claire Lee says
Oh no, hope she gets better soon! Haha, I didn’t know there was a term like that “mom fail” but I mean like ^Stacie said, it’s all part of growing!
I don’t have kids but I grew up in a big family and this is part of the process, we had broken legs falling from the boke, arms fractured running down the stairs, omg sounds awful but that’s how we grow. When we are kids we don’t really take it that seriously anyway 🙂
She is a tough baby! Luckily it will heal up quickly. I tend to take on any accident my kids have as my fault. Sorta built into us as moms I assume.
Jasmine Hewitt says
the first injury is the worst. but in my experience, we just get better at handling them
Shannon Gurnee says
It’s so tough when our babies (no matter what age they are) get injured. Hang in there mama.
I can’t even imagine how you feel… you have just blown up my mind because this is the 1st time I think about this… so interesting!
Give yourself a little grace mama; I’m sure the mom guilt hit hard. I totally thought when I first started reading that YOU were the one with the black eye! Haha!
It is hard when they hurt themselves, especially the first time but it will happen again (and again), but they do learn